“I can’t go to my friends’ houses” The number of elementary school students is rapidly increasing． Why are parents living in cities forbidding their children from going there？
0001@Old Man Friendship Club ★Jul. 18, 2024 (Thu) 10:11:56.69ID:2eHoQ+2H9
“I’m really sorry. I won’t let you go there again.”
Mr. A was taken aback by the sudden apology from the mother of his son’s friend. Mr. A is a self-employed man in his 50s who lives in Chuo Ward, Tokyo, and has a family of three: his wife and his son, who is in the third grade of elementary school.
Although the area is very education-conscious and has a high rate of junior high school entrance exams, Mr. A was surprised to learn that there are unique rules for how children “play.”
“It happened a while after my son started elementary school. He was playing at a nearby park on a weekend, and it seems he invited his friends to “come over to my place to play.”
As a result, he suddenly brought about seven friends over to our house. My wife and I served them drinks and snacks, and the day ended without incident.
However, when they got home, they probably told their parents, “I went to a friend’s house today.” After that, it became a big fuss.”
At that time, his son had just started elementary school, so most of Mr. A’s wife’s “mom friend network” was from his nursery school days.
However, some of the friends who came to play were from different daycare centers and kindergartens.
As a result, parents who were not part of the network were upset that they had “visited the home of a strange parent and child.”
“One of the mothers must have felt that she had to thank us. She made full use of Line and SNS, asking around to various people if anyone knew us.
In the end, it turned out that my wife’s mommy friend had a “mutual acquaintance,” and through her mommy friend, she sent us a polite message.
After that, the child stopped coming to our house. Even when my son invites her, some of the friends say, “My mom told me not to go to my friend’s house.” I thought that attitudes were very different from our time.”
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Of course, it may be that times have changed. In the Showa era, it was no problem to give children sweets and juice at home, but now even that can develop into trouble.
“I don’t know what the parents of friends who come to visit think about their children eating sweets and juice. So I can’t give them anything easily. They might have some kind of allergy. I think more and more parents are on guard when their children’s friends come to visit,” says Mr. A. Educational critic Chikato Oyano, who taught at a public elementary school for 23 years, says this. “For children, ’their home’ is their whole world. However, by going to a friend’s house, they realize that what is normal in their home is not normal at their friend’s home. The language, etiquette, food, everything is different. For children, it is a valuable opportunity to learn about diversity. Going to a friend’s house to play is the same as an adult traveling or studying abroad.” Continue reading at Yahoo! News Aera 2024/07/18 7:02
The premise is that I don’t want other people’s children to come to my house, so as a first step I don’t let my own children go to other people’s houses.
>>22 I think it depends on the house. There were some houses that were indifferent, but usually the parents connected with each other through the opportunity for the children to become friends.
>>26 I don’t know if their parents were close, but I had some kind of strange relationship with a friend It’s a relationship that only works because they’re children.
>>27 I don’t want people to look up to me, and I don’t want to be associated with people below me I want to mount people a little below me Is that all?
If mom is working and not at home, there’s no need to offer juice and snacks. And the people who invite her over and the people who come over can just treat it as a secret base and keep it a secret.
Children with allergies who are in elementary school or older should be taught to declare “I’m allergic to xx” on a regular basis. It is the parents’ duty to protect their children.
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