Advice On the way back from visiting my husband’s parents’ house， he told me that I should have refrained from taking the sushi that was missing． Is divorce the only option？
*Published on 8/10 (Sat) 20:51 hint-pot Summer trips back home can sometimes cause unexpected conflicts between couples. Here, we will introduce some stories of marital troubles that arose after couples returned home for the Obon holiday, along with advice from marriage counselor Megumi Harashima. The first time, my husband, who was usually very rational, changed completely when we went back home. This is the concern of a woman in her 30s who is considering divorce due to her husband’s unreasonable remarks. ◇◇◇ I believed we had a good relationship as a couple, but… The person asking for advice is Hashimoto Eri (pseudonym, in her 30s), who lives in Tokyo and has been married for four years. I met my husband at the after-party of a friend’s wedding, and as we both worked in research, we hit it off as we talked about the busyness and difficulties of our jobs. After dating for several years, we got married. “My husband and I both work, and he helps out around the house. He is always willing to do the cleaning and laundry on his own, so I’m in charge of cooking and the division of household chores is pretty equal. Our salaries were roughly the same, our household income was over 15 million yen, and we were not only happy, we were happy.” Both of us wanted children, so we started trying to conceive in the third year of our marriage. However, we still couldn’t get pregnant, so this spring we went together to an infertility clinic to get tested. They couldn’t find any bad points about either of them, and after talking it through, they decided to take it easy for a while. Eri says that they have always talked about anything whenever there was a problem, and that up until now she has felt that their relationship has been good. However, when she took an early summer vacation at the end of July and returned to her husband’s parents’ home, she realized that there was a definite rift between them. My brother-in-law’s wife, who had no plans to come home for the holidays, came over, and we ran out of food for dinner… My husband is the second of three brothers. All three are married and my brother-in-law and brother-in-law have children. Due to the spread of the new coronavirus shortly after Eri and her husband got married, it had been a long time since she had last seen her husband’s brother. When the decision was made to return home, my brother-in-law’s wife was unable to do so due to work commitments, but it would be the first time that the whole family would be gathered at my husband’s parents’ home. They thought it would be difficult to prepare a meal for such a large group, so they decided to have sushi on the first night. My mother-in-law arranged for 10 servings, just the right amount for the number of people gathering at her parents’ house. However, my brother-in-law’s family arrived just in time for dinner. Apparently my brother-in-law’s wife was there, who had not planned on coming. Since the sushi had already arrived, it would have been difficult to order an additional portion, and Eri was at a loss as to how to serve the food. His mother-in-law then replied, “I can’t eat that much, so I’ll just pick up whatever is around,” and instructed him to give her share to his brother-in-law’s wife. “After that, I finished my stay without any trouble and headed home. On the way there, my husband brought up the topic of dinner on the first day and asked, “Why wasn’t there any sushi from Mom’s restaurant?” I explained the whole story, but for some reason my husband didn’t seem convinced. Then he said, ’At times like that, shouldn’t Eri, who can’t even show her grandchild’s face, be the one to refrain?’ and I was speechless.” Continued below.
Pudding should be four in a row. My family consists of four people: my wife, my eldest daughter (7 years old), and my second daughter (4 years old), but whenever I buy a triple pudding, my oldest child always has to hold back. I can’t help but feel sorry for him.
The sushi delivery should be for four people. My family consists of four people: my wife, my eldest daughter (7 years old), and my second daughter (4 years old), but whenever we order three servings, my oldest child always has to hold back. I can’t help but feel sorry for him.
Well, it’s the inconsiderate third son’s fault. My third son should have just stolen one from each of the others to secure one for himself. Just tell them that this sushi caused your divorce and then get divorced.
It would have been fine if they had just lined up sushi tubs so people could pick whatever they wanted, but there were so many adults there that no one suggested that lol.
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